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Life

With a capital L of course, is full of many things. At this time of year, I thought I would sum things up for the past 12 months of my life, but not in chronological order, please.

Events worth rejoicing over

On October 2, 2010 Ms. Rhyan Sophia Wride made her entry into the world. She joins her two fantastic sisters Jordyn and Alexis, in sharing the adventures of her life, which has not been very quiet yet. Life at their house is filled with drama, missing fairy wings, princess costumes, and magic wands. Since they are living in Salt Lake City, I don’t get to see them as often as I would like.

Alexis, Nancy, Jordyn, Jeremy and Rhyan

In September, my daughter, Heather started back to school after being away for a long time. She is attending Salt Lake Community College, so obviously, she is in Salt Lake also. She has put her whole heart into her studies and has done well. Math, English, Music, and Theater have kept her busy. She has also discovered she has a good mind and enjoys learning. I am so proud of her. She is looking forward to next semester already!

Heather taking a break from studying

Our third event is a miracle. On April 16, across the ocean, Ms Melinda Jensen made her entrance into the world. Her parents are my nephew BJ and his wife Marica(Janet’s son). She came way too early, at the 24th week of pregnancy and weight 1.28 pounds. Her twin brother Christian, lived only a few minutes. The doctors had a guarded prognosis, and made lots of noises about complications, developmental problems, and such, but no one forgot to tell this young lady, who just has sailed through life with no major problems. She now weighs 13 pounds and has been home for almost three months. Here is her latest picture.

 

Ms. Malinda smiling for the camera

I am still here in Portland, and enjoying the grandchildren who live here. Bre is 9, loves to read and do crafts. She played soccer this summer. Liam also played soccer and has been doing well in first grade. They, like the rest of my grandchildren, are brilliant and beautiful or as Liam puts it “Awesome.” They are such a delight to have around and know that I can share time with them.

Erick and the kids having fun at the beach

Events I am regarding as a challenge

Life has been an adventure this year. I began working for Wells Fargo in Salt Lake, then transferred to Portland in March. It really did not matter where I was stationed, since I was constantly boarding planes train employees in Loss Mitigation, Collections and computer systems. From March through July, I was constantly traveling to another location. At the beginning of July, I got off a plane in Charlotte North Carolina. The temperature and humidity were both at 95, so I was not surprised that I felt breathless. From Charlotte I went to San Bernadino, and then home. I actually had some time off, and felt the first order of business was to get caught up on sleep and hang out with the grandkids who live here in Portland.

In August, I could not breathe and was not doing well. With a new assignment in tow, I was preparing to head out to Des Moines at the end of August. In the middle of August, still miserable, I showed up at urgent care and was told I had a sinus infection (even though my blood oxygen level was 70%, which was scary). I got on a plane at the end of August and was very ill by the time I reached Denver. Things didn’t get better throughout the trip, even during a surprise weekend in Minneapolis. Returning home, I saw a new doctor who found a pneumorthorax (collapsed lung). Apparently, I had been living with it for several months. After a weekend in the hospital, I did not feel better. It took a pulmonary specialist to find out what was wrong.

I have bullous lung disease, which is fairly rare. I had never heard of it. It seems that my lung fills with cysts, they burst and cause scarring and make me miserable. I was born with it, which is great news for the kids and grandkids, since it is genetic. Anyway, as a result of this disease, I have had to adjust my life style. I cannot climb Mount Everest, or scuba dive(Never really wanted to do them anyway.) I am supposed to stop smoking and using marijuana, (my secret sins have been uncovered). I need to stay at sea level and cannot get on any airplanes to go anywhere.

That means I had to quit work, and have been staying home recovering since. The penumorthorax has finally healed.

I am still sorting things out. I don’t know what the future has in store right now.

I take comfort in my new mantra, courtesy of another woman who had her life change drastically and had to deal with much more than I have, Elizabeth Edwards. I leave you with her words.

“She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, which it certainly did not, she adjusted her sails.”

~ Elizabeth Edwards

Love to you all. Have a wonderful holiday season.

Anne

annecloward@gmail.com

https://annelorene.wordpress.com

Mother’s Day is approaching and as I rush around to get cards for my daughters-in-law, my thoughts turn back to my mother, who has been gone for almost 20 years now. My sister, Janet, has written a lovely tribute to her, and I am posting a link to her blog for you to read. She also has added one of our favorite pictures of our mother. It was taken about the time she married our father, and shows her lovely tentative smile.

Check it out at her blog.

Even if it is a bittersweet time for you, remember your mother with love, if you can. I was just talking to my friend Pat, who lost her mother when she was a younger mother. Someone said to her that it was so good her mother was out of pain. She said, “I wanted to scream. She was my mother! She understood me like no one else every could, and now she is gone.”

Happy Mother’s Day everyone.


I Get By
What would you THINK if I sang out of tune,
Would you stand up and walk out on me.
Lend me your ears and I’ll sing you a song,
And I’ll try not to sing out of key.

Oh I get by with a little help from my friends,
I get high with a little help from my friends,
Oh I’m gonna try with a little help from my friends.

What do I do when my love is away.(Does it worry you to be alone)
How do I feel by the end of the day
(Are you sad because you’re on your own)

No, I get by with a little help from my friends,
Mmm I get high with a little help from my friends,
Mmm I’m gonna try with a little help from my friends

Do you need anybody?
I need somebody to love.
Could it be anybody?
I want somebody to love.
Someone in the Beatles

Boy, does this take me back to the days. I had just finished college and was teaching Chicano kids in Whittier California. I was totally enamored with another, group, Simon and Garfunkel, so really did not appreciate the historical significance of the British Invasion and the effect it would have on the world. Oh well, another trend missed in my youth. Only later, did I come to have their lyrics embedded into my consciousness, as did the everyone else on rest of the planet.
This message, hokey, as it is, has rung true for me recently.

We are constantly told to use our friends to network, as if they were another resource, like a recruiter or hiring manager who will help us get a job. I have a serious problem with this. I struggle with the idea that the only reason to have a friend is to use them to help you find employment. In this world of Facebook with the competition to have hundreds of friends, twittering (and having 1,000, 000 people linked to you), Linkedin with its thousands of tiered layers of people, maybe we should stop a minute in our job search and look to our friends, our true friends and look at what they add to our lives.

When I was a teen and in love for the first time, my beloved gave me a book by Joan Walsh Anglund entitled, “A Friend is Someone Who Likes You.” I still have it, with his dedication, packed away in storage. The complete text is printed in this blog. I do want to quote the last two stanzas, though.

And then you think you don’t have any friends.
Then you must stop hurrying and rushing so fast…
And move very slowly,
And look very carefully,

To see someone who smiles at you in a special way…
Or a dog that wags its tail extra hard whenever you are near…
Or a tree that lets you climb it easily…
Or a brook that lets you be quiet.

Sometimes you have to find your friend.
Some people have lots and lots of friends…
And some people have quite a few friends…
But everyone…
Everyone in the whole world
Has at least one friend.

My two best friends are my two sisters. They are both married and live in another state from me, but we are still connected so tightly. Between the three of us we have 12 children and have been through life together. We have buried both of our parents, written a novel and laughed a lot together. I don’t know what I would do without them in my life. No matter what rivals we may have been as children, we are there for each other in so many ways now.
I have other friends who I call my soul sisters, who have shared much with me also. I can think of about 10 of them. Not all of them understand my profession, but they are there for me in my life. One is in South America right now, and we Skype. Several are back in Minnesota and we keep in touch by email and phone. Some are new friends who are a part of my life now. I never know when a soul sister is going to show up in my life, but when they do, I almost immediately recognize them for the jewel they are.

There are my online friends in CJ who have been with me for over 10 years now. There are 30 of us who share our lives on a daily basis. Last summer, I was able to meet some of them in Denver at the famous international journaling conference. Whenever we met, it was instant hugs and recognition of old friends even though we were meeting in person for the first time. We have shared life’s deepest mysteries and joys with each other. I have posted about some of our struggles and good times here in the past.

There are business friends, those with whom I have worked and shared assignments. Sometimes they blend into my soul friends, and then others stay in the “work only” category. I enjoy their company and respect them for their gifts and the many ways they have enriched my personal and work life. I lean on them a lot. Their honest feedback has been a source of help when I have been floundering around wondering what I am going to do when I grow up. If I don’t know I have a flaw (moi?), how can I fix it?
I have gathered a small group of friends who are technical writers. I met them at a much larger networking meeting and selected eight of them to meet on a weekly basis. We support each other in our careers and job searches. They are a knowledgeable group who understand what it is like to want to write with passion, but need to make money also. I grabbed a name out of the air, CC Writers, since we met at a CCC Job Seekers meeting. Three original members of the group are now employed. We have explored our options, crafted our resumes and shared our experiences. They are an invaluable asset in my career development.
There are my Linkedin friends, with whom there is some familiarity, but to a lesser degree. They are still a valuable part of my life. One of my goals is to get to know some of them better so that we can enjoy a mutually productive relationship.
Will one of these friends help me find a job one day? I don’t know, but I do know that they make my life what it is.
How about you? Who are your friends? Where do you find them?